The Persuasion

Flirtingly he suggests,
Suprisingly she denies,
Innocently he continues,
Profusely she condemns,
Hurtingly he argues,
Rhetorically she replies,
Annoyingly he repeats,
Detesting she resists,
Irresponsibly he shouts,
Unknowingly she cries,
Aggravated he rejoices,
Assumingly she clarifies,
Demandingly he socializes,
Readily she compromises,
Lovingly he compliments,
Inadvertently she augments,
Caring is his intent,
Complaining she refutes,
Patiently he confesses,
Finally she agrees,

Endless peace seeps!

Just a Glimpse or two!

Just a glimpse over my shoulder ,
that's all I can afford I told her.
A beautiful fur pulled around her,
she seemed like no one had yet found her.

I waited long to meet her like now,
searching for a soul just don't know how.
Anyways there have been times when I have felt like she is the one
and then there are others when I feel I need no one.

Silken grace caressing her act
I lit up every time she tells even just a fact
the smile on her face and the twinkle in my eye,
a war of worlds I can't get by!

twenty times I tell myself not to resist,
Alone i tread the paths in mist
The mist of solitary minds and solitary heart
The mist of sadness that I'd love to part

Lovingly she makes a new start,
I gasp, I admire, I cannot my wishes thwart
I just take that glimpse and store it now
Store it forever in my heart to someday borrow

Pleasant is the day when she talked to me
Pleasant is the day when our eyes meet
Pleasant is the day when she treats me like someone special
Pleasant will be the day when I shall probably miss her

Alone I bet I don't want to not be around,
I dread the day when I'd miss her
Even then I avoid all of it,the involvement, the pain, the heartbreak and the smirk
Just a glimpse or two won't do it though, I got to do more to make myself a jerk

So I convince myself
and get more involved
Loving every reason that I've got
I still cherish every memory we make
I do love her ........ I won't fake.

"Finicky Fritters For Free !"

Fritters are accounts or excuses people give in order to get away with events where they fail to meet expectations. Below are some examples of Fritters that students come up with when they procrastinate. I found myself smiling when I came across these and suddenly I became nostalgic, thought about all the times when I gave accounts for not doing work. Or having postponed stuff.
Well I think you would also relate to a few of the things that I mention here.

Biological necessity: Hunger is an intrinsic drive. Often a good reason for not finishing the work is “An empty stomach cannot let a person think.”
Cleanliness in the forms of washing, showering are good reasons for not being able to complete the required work.
Fatigue: I’ll get up tomorrow when I’ll be fresh to work.
Rest-on-your-laurels-fritter where the person thinks that he or she has done it before and has been successful hence this time too everything will be just the same.
Commiseration fritter is a common fritter too. People often waste time in trying to get together information from other people and compare what the status of those people is. Whether they have progressed or are they also lagging.
Social Comparison If a student feels that he or she is way ahead of her competitors then the student feels relaxed and thinks that a break is well deserved and the student can stay off work while others work because the final outcome is going to be good (or that’s at least what the student thinks is going to happen)
Higher Good: This strategy suggests that to procrastinate work a person might say that studies are not everything. Values, moral development are also important. An example often quoted is “Even Einstein was not a good student sp failure does not mean that one can never be successful.”
Existential: Something like what-the hell-sort-of difference-will-it-make fritter
Task Based Fritters
Time symmetry fritter, when a person counts the total number of pages or thinks the total number of hours required for finishing a task and allocating each hour for a part of the task. At the same time say while a person is reading an article, the focus is on the number of pages
Scheduling Fritters, wherein the person decided to work at the hour. Like preference to work at 6:00pm rather than 5:40 pm or 6:05 pm.
Preparation related fritters, like the while – I – am- at –it. So like people like to first clean up their work area or such like and then begin work.
Creativity Fitters: The-first-step-is-hardest fritter. Here the initial part of an assigned job takes up most of the time under the pretext that a person requires ‘X’ amount of extra time to come up with novel ideas.

Thus there are many more of these kinds. However what I wish to point out is when you become conscious of all these varieties of fritters I am sure you will stop procrastinating right away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Four friends and Me

Four friends of mine thought they'd join me this month sometime on a weekend.I thought it was a good idea since we had not met up in a long time.Probably it had been long enough.We went to school together, studied in college together and after that had gone our own ways and had never met till date.Coincidently time has brought us back to the same country again.So although we were like miles away we thought why don't we meet at some place half way.
A good dinner together and an evening out on the streets of New york at night would be just so exciting.All of us agreed. Tickets were booked ,hotels were found and money matters were taken care of.

Swoosh we flew away to the Big Apple on a bright sunny friday.All of us reached on time to have the afternoon siesta together at the Waterfront.It was fun. Serene and totally exciting at the same time!

Now what the purpose of this whole account is the interesting conversation that ensued between us friends, the conclusions I drew from that short meeting and the surprises that dawned upon me.Though we grew up together it was fun to see our conversation take flips and turns acoording to what we had gone through in life.In short what was our cognition shaping in our personalities in general was quite intriguing to me.

Five people , totally unlike each other.
I would reagrd myself to be the confused category who is still exploring what life is,who is still defining the limits of curiousity,who is still fringing at the stinginess and the captivity of narrow minds and constantly testing time and freedom.

Now it is also important to know what the other people in this story are like

Nobody : who thinks that she is not alright and thinks that noone is alright either.A sorry case of hopelessness.Negative views about self, others and the future.I don't know what she has gone through or whether she has gone through any tough times at all but her basic philosophy in life is "I don't care about love because I am not nice and I am not beautiful and I am not clever either and I don't want anyone because there is no good person perfect for me either."
(The psychologist in me thought.......Well this is a case of massive depression or avoidant personality disorder or in short just lerned helplessness)

Somebody:who was a little someone in her own right.She was a graduate from a good school, had managed to get a high paid and lucrative career and also was looking for any opportunities whatsoever in politics.She also was very estatic that she had the world's best (henpecked) equality loving husband and also the fact that he prided himself in her success made me think her life's philosophy probably was"I am Ok but everyone else is too inferior to meet my standards of excellence"
(my diagnosis: a superiority complex on the verge of leading to narcissim or self obsession)

Anybody:She was a friend who would always complete people's unfinished homework and would take care of volunteering for activities that the teachers really had to work hard to find participant.Infact there was a joke in class that probably she is compulsive in the sense that she is conditioned to life up her arm for everything that the teacher talks in class.Specially the moment the teacher would ask for volunteers, her hand was go up like some natural phenomenon.
Her thought worked on one premise.I am not ok but everyone else is.Everyone else she knew or even those she didn't she thought they were ideal.They were perfect and she wasn't any good at all.
(Inferiority complex was peeping out of her self depriciating talk and low self esteem too)

Everybody: Probably this friend of mine is quite hard to find.Didn't speak much but whatever she spoke was worthwhile.Whatever she spoke was useful.Whatever she shared let us know one thing for sure she was talented and successful but at the same time modest to the core.Pure heart and pure conscience.
A thinking pattern evident in her was" I am ok and everyone around me is also ok"
(Shocked I couldn't find any psychological disorder that she could be categorised for)

In short what I'd like to say is this is the kind of attitude that we are all trying to achieve.A cognition sound enough to stand all problems of life.
Also another important thing that came to the forefront was that this friend of mine was so peaceful with herself.No showoffs , no put up behavior and no masks at all.She didn't need them because she was so confident of herself and peaceful with herself.

De ja vu!

It's all happening again.
Again I am becoming the good old friend i was.
Again I am supporting someone I care for.
Again I don't seem to have time,
Again everything seems not fine.
Again the grass is withering away with the chills
Again the raindrops are causing huge spills.
Again the winter is around the corner,
Again my goals just seems so much further,
Again I am being dominated by someone else's problems,
Again I am heeding to other peoples' sadness.
Again I am doing what I am good at.
Again I am giving advice I am unable to adapt.
Again the rainbow is going to peep,
Again happiness promises to sweep,
Again I dream of beautiful smiles,
Again I wait for the good times.
Again I reiterate I won't give in to
Again I say for sure this time it's Deja vu!!!!!