Four friends and Me

Four friends of mine thought they'd join me this month sometime on a weekend.I thought it was a good idea since we had not met up in a long time.Probably it had been long enough.We went to school together, studied in college together and after that had gone our own ways and had never met till date.Coincidently time has brought us back to the same country again.So although we were like miles away we thought why don't we meet at some place half way.
A good dinner together and an evening out on the streets of New york at night would be just so exciting.All of us agreed. Tickets were booked ,hotels were found and money matters were taken care of.

Swoosh we flew away to the Big Apple on a bright sunny friday.All of us reached on time to have the afternoon siesta together at the Waterfront.It was fun. Serene and totally exciting at the same time!

Now what the purpose of this whole account is the interesting conversation that ensued between us friends, the conclusions I drew from that short meeting and the surprises that dawned upon me.Though we grew up together it was fun to see our conversation take flips and turns acoording to what we had gone through in life.In short what was our cognition shaping in our personalities in general was quite intriguing to me.

Five people , totally unlike each other.
I would reagrd myself to be the confused category who is still exploring what life is,who is still defining the limits of curiousity,who is still fringing at the stinginess and the captivity of narrow minds and constantly testing time and freedom.

Now it is also important to know what the other people in this story are like

Nobody : who thinks that she is not alright and thinks that noone is alright either.A sorry case of hopelessness.Negative views about self, others and the future.I don't know what she has gone through or whether she has gone through any tough times at all but her basic philosophy in life is "I don't care about love because I am not nice and I am not beautiful and I am not clever either and I don't want anyone because there is no good person perfect for me either."
(The psychologist in me thought.......Well this is a case of massive depression or avoidant personality disorder or in short just lerned helplessness)

Somebody:who was a little someone in her own right.She was a graduate from a good school, had managed to get a high paid and lucrative career and also was looking for any opportunities whatsoever in politics.She also was very estatic that she had the world's best (henpecked) equality loving husband and also the fact that he prided himself in her success made me think her life's philosophy probably was"I am Ok but everyone else is too inferior to meet my standards of excellence"
(my diagnosis: a superiority complex on the verge of leading to narcissim or self obsession)

Anybody:She was a friend who would always complete people's unfinished homework and would take care of volunteering for activities that the teachers really had to work hard to find participant.Infact there was a joke in class that probably she is compulsive in the sense that she is conditioned to life up her arm for everything that the teacher talks in class.Specially the moment the teacher would ask for volunteers, her hand was go up like some natural phenomenon.
Her thought worked on one premise.I am not ok but everyone else is.Everyone else she knew or even those she didn't she thought they were ideal.They were perfect and she wasn't any good at all.
(Inferiority complex was peeping out of her self depriciating talk and low self esteem too)

Everybody: Probably this friend of mine is quite hard to find.Didn't speak much but whatever she spoke was worthwhile.Whatever she spoke was useful.Whatever she shared let us know one thing for sure she was talented and successful but at the same time modest to the core.Pure heart and pure conscience.
A thinking pattern evident in her was" I am ok and everyone around me is also ok"
(Shocked I couldn't find any psychological disorder that she could be categorised for)

In short what I'd like to say is this is the kind of attitude that we are all trying to achieve.A cognition sound enough to stand all problems of life.
Also another important thing that came to the forefront was that this friend of mine was so peaceful with herself.No showoffs , no put up behavior and no masks at all.She didn't need them because she was so confident of herself and peaceful with herself.