Tougher walls that you build , tougher are they to break
nevertheless people budge in , with umpteen hurts they sad you make.
You try to repace the clock , say you never want to stop
you try to turn around but little do you expect a stab
A stab in the back, a blow unexpected
when you let down your guard, that's when you are eliminated.
Give in to kindness only when you are stone - hearted,
expect back everything except for an honest heart courted.
Stop being nice, caring and loving.
Very few deserve any sort of warning
Let them see the ditch and in it fall,
Fall hard and hurt themselves and feel repentence over all
For only then would they think why you did , what you did
For only then would peace prevail where it should.
Sometimes it is indeed necessary for you to get hurt because often what care and love cannot teach, pain and sorrow teach in a split second.
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well... even when a mom loves her kid, that love and care are not selfless. she loves to love her kid. so when we feel that we are doing something self-lessly, thats an illusion, sheer illusion. so better we see it as: we expected something from the relation, but it has never met our expectation. accordingly, it is not wise to make such decision like "karo bhala to hoga boora". dont analysze life... live it in its simplest form, with your work, with your family, with quality friendships and with an unquestionable faith in God. You will be fine in long run!
@ anonymous
Firstly nobody refrains from analyzing life....Some people just accept it inspite of analysis and others don't.
Well whether or not one has unquestionable faith in God, everyone is fine in the long run because there are no two ways about it.
Also how do all these utopian ideas of simplicity occur in real life (quality friendships, unquestionable faith .....hard to define). Without complications there is no simplicity.That is the very nature of all physical forms and human life is no exception.
answering one-by-one...
irrespective of your analysis of your life... you HAVE to accept whatever comes in your way. tell me one thing, by analyzing, are you able to have any less problem in your life than the maid working in your house back in india. she/ he can not analyze her/his life and you can do with your rational mindset. but end-result is the same. its an occupational hazard for us... disecting disecting and disecting.
nothing is utopian. in your blog you wrote you are thinking for others... thinking of your friends good... you want to save her/him from falling. If that is not a quality friendship, then what is it?
unquestionable faith in God... yes it is very hard to define. it is like to feel that nature is a great leveler. Its good that we can't talk to God. Had it been an interactive conversation, we would have started arguing with Her also. I feel sometimes it is best to just trust, blindly like an "uneducated" person.
i completely agree with you... without complexity, we can't achieve simplicity. but need to understand the sequence. like your laptop, it is a complex device INSIDE, thats why it is so user-friendly. likewise, our thought-mechanism should be complex, NOT our expression and appearence. if our knowledge-base and scope-of-thought are vast, then our life would be simplest.
Whoa!
@ anonymous....
you thoughts astound me.On one hand you make some really valid points but there are so many unnecessary assumptions that you are making....
about the maid back in India....First of all why will a maid not be able to think rationally even if she has not had formal education. Isn't life experience good enough to teach rationality at times? I feel it is too far fetched a generalization to say that the maid back in India won't be able to rationally dissect which you claim probably I am doing.
To clarify that further..I am not analyzing life, I am reacting to it. To whatever life puts in your path.And the point I am trying to make is don't repel the unpleasant moments, rather embrace them for they teach a lot that the pleasant ones cannot.
Secondly you talked about unquestionable faith. I have enough evidence of human behavior and faith practices to understand that the amount of unquestionable faith is not directly proportional to the amount of 'uneducatedness' of an individual.
You said in your earlier comment that even a mom is selfish when she loves her child .....so basically anything selfless is an illusion......then this unquestionable faith in God (isn't that selfless and therefore and illusion and therefore not the reality????) probably if you say No to this then you are contradicting your ownself.
and you did agree that complexity is the backbone of simplicity or atleast could be a possibility, but you feel that our thoughts should be complex but not our expression or appearance. What exactly do you mean by that.If you think all thought can be communicated say in Language then what about those expressions that have no name to it but just a feeling???????? Isn't human expression and appearance more complex that just thinking? Probably that is why it's more difficult to just 'be'.
what care and love cannot teach, pain and sorrow teach in a split second.
so true :-)
However, expectation & misunderstanding r the culprits. If those r eleminated... things can change drastically. Let go!
As we can talk and talk and talk… and fight for having the last word… lets have this as the final comment from this stranger.
As Sal says… your last line is very true. But look at the lines before… you really didn’t react only, you analyzed and felt bad… and kind of expecting “okey! have a life without me… and you will realize my value when you will face the abyss.” And I am trying to make my point on this. May be she/ he will never realize. And top of that, if you expect this realization from him/ her… you can never get out of this thing. As you have said, life is the best teacher and in this case the lesson is the last line of your blog. Before that… it is your frustrations (resulted from expectations). Now, question remains, how to get out of this. I do it by believing unquestionably that God or Nature will take care of me (and it is not at all a self-less thought). You can choose a different way that suits you the best.
I agree with you completely about the maid part. I used it as a pathological example only to avoid lot of assumptions. We have the biggest example of the zero correlation between so-called education and spiritual-n-philosophical thoughts of a person: Ramakrishna (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ramakrishna). This is not the topic of discussion here, may be we will talk about this in some other blog :).
All that I wanted to say in my last paragraph is: sometimes it is good to just cry, if I feel crying. That’s the simplest way. The complex way is to analyze “why I am crying” OR “I shouldn’t cry, I should smile” OR “Lets do other things to make me happy”. Human feelings is the most magical and unknown thing. And it becomes a real mess in someone’s life if she/ he starts dissecting “why do I have this feelings”. Like a child, we should accept our feelings (I know if I use the word “uneducated”, you will box me).
Disclaimer: By the word “uneducated”, I mean a person we doesn’t have a formal education. Who is free from the dangerous tools we have to dissect our mind.
a very good post poonam.
Unbelivable talent at writing, but too much time spent on misunderstandings. Rather, talk it out than contemplate over the issue like its the end of the world. Hint: Move on dear. Lfe is like this.
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