Tuesday, April 25, 2006

virtual trust

On a bright sunny day, I happen to have an intriguing conversation with a person far away, not even visible to me. I have never met this person before, just a friend’s friend. And this friend I haven’t met in a long time either. It’s been a long time and people change but some do not and I always place my bets on most who do not change. Or rather I like to believe that they will not change for I adore them, admire them sometimes even foolishly revere them.
Internet and computers sure have made life easier. We can bond across the seas and cross the barriers of distance in no time. However like every rose has a thorn, this fast paced means of communication certainly messes up life and faith in humans quite often.
One thought that came to my mind as I talked to this indirect friend, most certainly was brought up in the conversation, What if? What if the person across seven seas is lying? What if he or she says they are XYZ and they are not? What if they say they are born with a silver spoon and they are not?
Have you ever imagined, you fall head over heels in love with someone you haven’t seen and then are ready to give up all to meet the person, spend a lifetime with the person and no sooner have you jumped the bandwagon, does this wonderful soul reveal secrets that were never meant to be told. The person was cheating on you. The person was breaking your trust each time you thought they were oh so loyal!!!!!!!!!!!
Or think of this scene, when a person is talking to you, assuring you the sky and then one day when things go wrong by the score, as they sometimes do, the person never even checks on you. You notice inconsistency but what can you do? You are bound by the anonymity, the incapability to control circumstances.
So many more things happen and I really wonder if we should trust the person on the other side who is on the other end of an Online Chat conversation.
But then again if you don’t trust you might not meet those few gems out there. All I think we can do is take everything with a pinch of salt and life won’t be so complicated. And what the hell, even if it is complicated? It is much more fun that way. Isn’t it?

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

meri baat man...kisi ki bhi baat mat man..kabhi bhi nahi..and after the experiences you have had, better not even think about believing in this ideology

yatzgad said...

It's not bad getting to be friends. But don't build a world of trust on online friendships...unless if the original friend can vouch for his/her friend and you can take that reco at face value.

Siddharth Adelkar said...

good point.

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